Why are we doing what we are doing?
Because everybody's is doing this, my parents' expectation, schools taught us, my friends are doing it...
These could become a reason to blame for our unhappiness and sorrows towards the end of our path.
Many times, we want to believe that the things we do must comes with reasons. We want to do things because of something or someone; so if anything goes wrong, at least we can hold them responsible. We don't show it upfront in our face ( we all are good actors), but we're thinking like that... right at the back of our head.
We want to convince others that we're a successful person by fitting into their perception of what a success is. We even want to make ourselves to believe that what we're doing will make us happy. We want to make others to agree with us by doing what's agreeing to them.
When there's something or someone that can benefit us the way we want, we're good to them. When it come to the point that we've reap the benefits, we just store them aside. The whole relationship becomes a " contract service". Some may disagree, but do spend sometime processing and we'll see beyond the superficial.
Most time our action is lead by our thoughts. And thoughts itself is an act. An act that is not seen by others, but only us. And only we know the truth and intention of our behaviors. We tend to hide our thoughts by conditioning our actions--- because we fear of being exposed.
If there's anything that need to be back by an explanation for our action, then probably its an conditioned act instead of a reflection of our thoughts. When all things happen naturally, happen for reasons... not explanations.
Can i see myself doing what i am doing now for the next 5 years? Can i see myself being a friend with the person for the next 5 years? this is one question i'll always ask myself often; that i don't want anyone or anything to be responsible for the falls and bumps i got into. Because, i chose it, that i can even save any explanation for myself.
Because everybody's is doing this, my parents' expectation, schools taught us, my friends are doing it...
These could become a reason to blame for our unhappiness and sorrows towards the end of our path.
Many times, we want to believe that the things we do must comes with reasons. We want to do things because of something or someone; so if anything goes wrong, at least we can hold them responsible. We don't show it upfront in our face ( we all are good actors), but we're thinking like that... right at the back of our head.
We want to convince others that we're a successful person by fitting into their perception of what a success is. We even want to make ourselves to believe that what we're doing will make us happy. We want to make others to agree with us by doing what's agreeing to them.
When there's something or someone that can benefit us the way we want, we're good to them. When it come to the point that we've reap the benefits, we just store them aside. The whole relationship becomes a " contract service". Some may disagree, but do spend sometime processing and we'll see beyond the superficial.
Most time our action is lead by our thoughts. And thoughts itself is an act. An act that is not seen by others, but only us. And only we know the truth and intention of our behaviors. We tend to hide our thoughts by conditioning our actions--- because we fear of being exposed.
If there's anything that need to be back by an explanation for our action, then probably its an conditioned act instead of a reflection of our thoughts. When all things happen naturally, happen for reasons... not explanations.
Can i see myself doing what i am doing now for the next 5 years? Can i see myself being a friend with the person for the next 5 years? this is one question i'll always ask myself often; that i don't want anyone or anything to be responsible for the falls and bumps i got into. Because, i chose it, that i can even save any explanation for myself.
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